Saturday, July 31, 2010

Being married and one getting his phD is that possible?

My husband is planning on getting his phD and I will be working as an Elementary School teacher. With not most pay and no full time job for him. Also, I will most likely be student teaching the first 8 months. we love each other we have been living a part because he was doing his bachelors somewhere else and now he is moving to where I am completing my bachelors.Being married and one getting his phD is that possible?
Neither excludes the other and I know from personal experience.





Both my wife and myself are currently working on getting PhD's. I have about 3 to 4 months left (and I am madly writing my thesis), while my wife is only 1 month into the 3 years required. We survive on scholarships (one each) and the one day a week my wife works in retail (to get some extra money for herself and family). I pickup any extra I can at uni (like exam marking, tutoring etc).





It is not the easiest life and our budget is tight, but we are together and for the most part happy. Once I finish I can then get into the workforce and then it wouldn't be so bad.Being married and one getting his phD is that possible?
are you asking if you will resent him if you have to support him for ten years and then he still wont make much money making you the permanent breadwinner?





you two have to be on the same page as to who does what and who earns what and how much time is allotted for school. a man will work 24/7 to complete a doctorate so he can support his family, a boy will try to go to school for the rest of his life on your dime while he makes endless excuses as to why it is taking so long. which is he? is he driven to succeed and get going, or is he looking for someone to support him forever. the answer will determine your future success and happiness.
If you can make the bills, why not make it possible? You two have to be there for each other no matter what, right? You still love each other, right? So make your dreams come true, both of you, and live your lives appreciating what you have.
Sounds like you two might want to prioritize your lives. What you're both planning isn't conducive to a good marriage. It might be better to wait until you're closer at the end of your educational goals.
If you can support both of you on your teaching salary then yes. If not then no. I know people who have done it while married but they and their spouse can support them to take the time to study.
Having him there with you should make it easier. It is possible, the two of you will really have to step up and be there for each other.
Of course it is possble, rent a cheap placce and keep your bills low
whats the problem ?

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