How do I convince my bf to get married? I want to have kids but wait till I am married.?

We have been together for 4 years now. Lived together for 1 and he just keeps saying he wants to but not yet and I think he just says he wants to so i will quit talking about it because every time we do we fightHow do I convince my bf to get married? I want to have kids but wait till I am married.?
Wait for HIM to get down on one leg and open the little black velvet box.How do I convince my bf to get married? I want to have kids but wait till I am married.?
It's simple. Tell him what you want. Don't wait around for NO man darling. If loves you %26amp; wants to marry you like he says, then he should have problem putting a ring on that finger of yours. He doesn't really sound like he wants to. 4 years is plenty enough time for him to figure out exactly where he wants your relationhip to go. Tell him what you want %26amp; tell him that if he can't give that to you then he needs to be honest with you %26amp; let you know so YOU can make a decision as far as whether you want to stay with him just hoping one day he will want to marry you, or whether you want to move on %26amp; find someone that wants the same things that you do. There are plenty of men out there. Plenty that want to get married %26amp; have a family just as you do. So go talk to him %26amp; make a decision from what happens with that conversation. I've had this very same conversation my my now fiancee. Told him that I was ready for marriage %26amp; if he's not then he needs to let me know so I don't waste no more time. In a matter of a couple months he had a ring on my finger %26amp; we are getting married in 9 months. You just have to put your foot down %26amp; let him know exactly what you want %26amp; don't accept less. Don't settle. Move on if you have to. Good luck
well if every time you want to talk to him about it, and it ends up as a fight. that should show you he does not want to get married. or there would never been any type of fight over such a thing as this. it seems as if he does not want to give you a straight answer, so he puts you off by saying not yet. that is the easy way out of the situation. sorry' but true.
How old are you guys? If your both in your 30's then I can understand the argument for urgency. If your in your mid to late 20's then there's always time. If your in your young 20's or late teens, if he's not ready... leave it alone for a while. If you can't wait, then maybe he's not who you should be with.
The living together was the deal breaker...No need for him to marry you now; you already stated by your action that you have no problem living together without the benefit of marriage. Good Luck....because if you have to keep asking a man to marry you, he really doesn't want to.
I've been with my fiance for four years and our wedding is all he talks about. ';Not ready'; seems to be just an easy way of telling you he doesn't want to marry you. If you have to convince him, obviously he's not the right one.
He should be chasing you into it, not the other way around. Does he ever wonder about losing you? He may have to..to come to his senses. Otherwise, you are wasting your years. But you already know that. Do not have children with him. You will regret it.
Never convince someone to get married.





I suggest moving out and ending the relationship, but what ever you do, do not return to this guy even if he should propose in an attempt to get you back.
You need to face reality. He does not want to marry you. Now or ever. So you have two choices: Either continue living with him and forget about marriage, or break things off with him and find someone who shares your goals in life, i.e. marriage and family.
Why go out of his way for a little milk when he's already got the whole cow?


On the same logic, why marry the pig for a little sausage?





You go girl, keep him in your radar but cast around for better prospective.
How old are you? If you are under 21, then he's right to hold off. If you are in your late 20s, then he is just telling you that to keep his options open for something better to come along.
If a man hasnt put a ring on your finger after 4 years its most likely he wont. Why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free. Sorry girl.
Maybe he wants to have all his ';ducks in a row'; you know finances and all.