How come she never got married?

The other day I caught up with an old friend from graduate school I hadn't seen in more than sixteen years. We had lunch together and I asked her why she never got married. Clearly this was a painful subject for her that she did not want to discuss.





My friend is of east Asian origin. At 54 years old, she is still dazzlingly beautiful. She has three masters degrees, is kind, gentle, witty, and a terrific cook. How is it possible somebody like her never married?How come she never got married?
Maybe she made the decision not to for a lot of reasons. Asian women are often pressured into marriage and it might have been easier to just not get married rather than face parental/societal rejection.





There might be something in there about not wanting motherhood as well - we seem to judge women very harshly for not wanting children.





Either way, it's quite a personal question and it might be hard to explain that kind of decision to a relative stranger.How come she never got married?
It happens to some academics when they dedicate themselves entirely to their research. I've known quite a few female professors who never married. Some would just go from boyfriend to boyfriend, it's not like they were alone or anything.





There was a married woman in my department in grad school and we used to chuckle about how many kids she had and kept having during her stay. She had five children, two while in grad school, and her husband, we think, must've worked from home, because he was the one who took care of them all. That's just to show the diametric opposite of the case you have presented.
Maybe she was close to getting married at one time and either had a bad breakup or he died, and she can't bring herself to take the chance on it happening again. My boss is about that age, Chinese, and never married. I've never asked why, never thought it was my business. Wait a minute, you talking about my boss? LOL
just guessing. maybe she kept putting off marriage for her education until she got so old nobody wanted her. maybe she planned to marry someone but it didn't work out. maybe she had a relationship with a dude for years and he finally dumped her for someone younger. maybe that's what makes it painful for her to talk about.
Because she loves her independence...





She's successful maybe she doesn't want a man in her life





and I find it funny that the guys that answered your question think it's about her education...they are misinformed...i doubt it has anything to do with that
Maybe she did get married and it turned out badly for her. Or maybe she never met someone she loved enough to marry. It's possible for absolutely wonderful people not to get (or stay) married, you know.
Perhaps she never found anyone she liked enough to marry. Or perhaps she was just too busy with her career. Or maybe she's a lesbian. How on earth would anyone on here know if you don't? I mean, she's your friend for crying out loud.
3 things are possible...





1) she likes being independednt...





2) she never found the right one..





3) you haven't seen her other side, maybe she is impossible to live with