What is more better, getting married to the wrong person or wait and act wise? read below?

obviously at the time of marriage, we do not know if the person is a good person because you just got married to him because a good proposal came and showed interest to u and ure family fixed it. so, is it fine to haste in getting married to any good proposal ( which may not be even good) or Wait till u really get a Good Muslim MAN??? what is more wise?What is more better, getting married to the wrong person or wait and act wise? read below?
I don't have the exact answer to your question in terms of which is wiser. However, I'd like to say that when the right person comes, you will definitely know it. I myself did not have an arranged marriage. But I did have proposals for an arranged marriage and I know how it feels. But all of my good friends who did have arranged marriages told me that they knew that this was the one once they met him.


You should look at the qualities of the man who proposes to you. But that's not enough. You should want to marry him too. Give your heart some room in guiding you.


And at the end, any woman should be convinced that the man she is getting married to is the right one, and not just get married because someone proposed to her.


I hope I managed to address your question, at least partially, even if my words are said indirectly.


All the best wishes sent to you from your sister Avenny.What is more better, getting married to the wrong person or wait and act wise? read below?
It is very important to wait until you find someone that you feel that you COULD love. If there is no attraction, better wait. It would also be wise to first read Al Fatiha and get Islamically married so you can spend time getting to know each other before you make a final decision. If you break up with him and there has been no intercourse, I believe the marriage can be annulled without consequence.
Waiting to get married to a good Muslim man, because isn't that what all Muslimahs want in the first place, a nice caring, loving Man.





It's not only smart its the better choice, instead of just rushing and marrying someone because he was good at proposal which doesn't always mean he is going to be good to you.
When you get a proposal you should act wisely. Thats allI can say. You should do some research regarding the groom. Like asking their neighbours secretly, or asking friends and relatives if they have heard about such a family and boy (in particular.) We had people come to our house asking about our neighbours. This looks strange but marriage is a important decision, worth enough some risk and research.





There will still be some amount of uncertainity. You cannot decide everything. A lot depends on the girl as well. Often she herself is a problem in a perfectly Utopian home. Daughter-in-laws dont have their hands washed with saffronned milk.





And how can you wait? For the good Muslim MAN you say, you will have the same dillemma's and encounter the same confusions. Just like a mobile phone. The more you wait the better model you get.But often the older versions are better than the newer ones. So what do you do in that case? Thrash the shopkeeper with you new set. Or just carry it along. In marriage you have an advantage, that your husband is not inanimate like your sell phone. He has a brain (I hope he has) and will listen to his wife and may change, soften his stand. Marriage is no easy matter for him as well.





Have your 100% faith in God. He will see through!!!





TW K
i'd say wait.... in my parents country, the parents hook you up, you meet....then over a 6 month to 2 year span of time is the engagement. Lots of family dinners and phone calls. No one on one time in person.


Some people disagree about the phone calls, and i've heard others that say as long as it stays clean its fine.....this was before internet, so i suppose e-mails and ims would work now too.


I'd expect something like that at the very least, for myself.
first impressions arent always the the truth remember that..any1 can give a good proposal but this does not necessarily mean he is the right man 4 u..u shud get 2 no him and see if he is suitable 4 u.. u shud wait 4 a good muslim man hu has a clean heart and has u at his best interests and wil be a good life partner 4 u. Inshallah the rite one will come 2 u salam waleikom xx
I don't know how I'd know that the boy asking is shown good or he really is good!








I'd do what I and my parents would feel are better!


Of course parents would do some research and won't haste in saying yes to the one asking.
Thats not the way to do it ;)





You need to approve to not just the family, you need to get to know him and if you think he is good etc then move forward.





Where have you been you haven't been in touch?? ;(
Im a man but i would wait.. it's not good to rush cause if you rushed then 70% it will be not right.. So wait and find the one : - )
patience is a virute





=)
wait to get a good man


in the end it better